NewNowNext recently published an article entitled, “What Happened When This 7-Year-Old Trans Girl Met Laverne Cox?” it’s about a seven year-old trans-girl meeting Laverne Cox. The answer to that question is … the internet turned into a war zone, lol. Not shocking. But in all seriousness, the response on social media, where anyone can voice out their feelings, was intense. Although a lot of people praised the mother and the child, there where a lot of people who responded with horrible comments, questioning the mother’s and child’s state of mind.
Fighting Fire With Fire
On the NewNowNext site, Peturbed (who is clearly too “scared” to be identified) wrote, and I quote.
“At 7, the kid doesn’t know much about gender. Until puberty, the parents shouldn’t be using that kind of language, they should just let the kid be a kid and not make gender matter. As it is, they’ve just gone and put into an impressionable child’s mind, the idea that being trans is special and beautiful (and therefore something to aspire to be) rather than an innate characteristic of a very small minority of people who are disadvantaged by it. It’s not good for the child, and it’s not good for the trans community, to have people claiming to be transgendered who may well not actually be.”
A snarky remark followed, by yet another person too “scared” to be identified, Blahblah wrote …
“Oh. I’m sorry. I didn’t realize we had a child gender specialist here.”
WOwzer wrote ..
“What the **** is this ? at 7 a kid should just be a kid nothing more.”
More people, who positions themselves as “defenders of trans,” lambast and attack people who are clearly in a state of “culture shock” and confusion.
“I think you should be educating yourself instead of commenting ignorantly on articles.” wrotes Kris.
“**** off you transphobic shithead” wrotes D.
These kind of harsh reactionary responses isn’t going to help educate people, nor will it earn any merits in furthering the discussion, acceptance, and tolerance about transgender. But it will provoke more hatred and attacks, and add fuel to the arguments of people who has a political agenda against the LGBT community.
Megan Elizabeth Tripoli-Robertson commented on NewNowNext’s Facebook feed …
“How in the HELL can you be 7 and Trans? She hasn’t even hit puberty.”
It is a very good question, but as expected, some people attacked her and called her names. Not helpful. Keara Lamour Jenner, who identify herself as trans, responded beautifully …
“Megan, my name is Keara Lamour! I have known I was born in the wrong body since I was old enough to be in school and stand in single file lines. (one for the boys and one for the girls). at a very young age I always stood in the girls line. anytime we would have to separate the class into boy and girl teams I always went with the girls. at such a young age the girls were welcoming!!!! I am gonna be 32 in a month, I have lived as a woman for 18 years. coming out was not easy, but I have been truly blessed!!
today I feel complete, I know who I am, I know what I am and I am 100% confident with it! I don’t need you to understand me, my daughter or anyone who lives their lives as trans!!!!
but I would greatly appreciate your respect, because as much as you don’t understand what we endure. we don’t know much about you either!!! to each their own…live and let live.. the time is now for you to forget everything you think you know about trans life, so you can open your mind to new things and actually learn something!! take care and God bless. love you daughter Kalama Perkins”
That’s probably one of the best answers I’ve read from an actual trans woman who has gone thru the experience at a very young age. And it made me think, I didn’t realize I was gay in my adult years, no. I realized that since I started to think for myself … when I was little. And I knew, I knew as a kid I was more comfortable being around girls than the guys. I hated sports and I love dancing and painting. If I did mingle with the guys, it’s only because I thought it was what was expected of me, but it never felt completely right. I remember feeling attracted to a teenage boy when I was six years-old! I even had a crush on a kid, a boy, in kindergarten. I didn’t ask him out or made out with him, no, I just took his bag and ran away with it. lol. I gave it back after he cried so loud. I didn’t know how to handle it then, and now only a little lol, but I knew how it felt. And in freshman university, we had an openly gay man friend … and he would crack jokes and be all musical about everything, and I was envious of him, for his freedom. The gods of Olympus knows I tried courting a straight woman, yes. And it felt weird and unconformable … I was sweating bullets for the wrong reasons, and made a big fool of myself. I tried it again six years later, just to humor it, and I knew it wasn’t right for me.
You Are Who You Are From The Get-Go
The point here is, and I’m not trying to write an autobiography, kids know or at least have a clue who they are, gender-wise. Whether they will stick to it in their adult life, we can’t say for sure. What kids need is a nurturing and loving family that allows them to be themselves. And with good guidance and parenting, they will become the best person they can be. Whether parents like it or not, their children will find their own way.
And as for the responses to the NewNowNext article, it highlights that tolerance and understanding is not a one-way street. The LGBT community can’t just demand it, it also needs to know how to give it! In order to move forward harmoniously together, both the LGBT community and those across the aisle, need cool heads and constructive conversation … and not just lashing out on people just because they don’t “get you.”
I still dislike the fact that people, regardless of subculture, are “owning” words even if it’s used in a non-derogatory way by people who clearly earned their right to use it — like “she-male.” It still grinds my gears when GLAAD called out RuPaul for using it on RuPaul’s Drag Race, even though it wasn’t meant to be offensive, not even close. Sometimes the LGBT community reeks with entitlement. RuPaul mentioned in his podcast about the gay success momentum fizzling, I agree, that it will end at some point. Like with everything in life … nothing lasts forever. I can already see the anti-thesis of the “gay is cool” bandwagon … it’s this strong sense of entitlement, putting ourselves on a pedestal, and attacking others where there should’ve been dialogue. It will further annihilate those who do not understand it. All it takes is one disenfranchised person to campaign against a fragile community, only one, and the tides will turn. Sometimes I think the LGBT community is losing sight of its agenda, to gain acceptance and tolerance, because it’s too caught up with the limelight and media coverage. What the community need is a big dose of humility.