People can only take so much stress before it starts to breakdown mentally and physically. It’s not rocket science. The mind and body needs time to recover after experiencing stress. Consequences can be devastating, like behavioral issues, mental breakdown, premature aging, or even physical problems such as muscle twitching or even cancer. One way or the other, the effects of stress will manifest itself. We’re not going to talk about positive experiences because it’s good for you. The more positive experiences you have, the better.
It’s great to care about others and reach out and help – being selfless. But one also needs to pull back and focus on one’s core, yourself, and recuperate – being selfish. You won’t be of any help to anyone if you’re sick … or worse, dead. Always look after the No. 1, yourself. It doesn’t mean you have to be selfish all the time, it means, manage how much stress you take on to avoid subjecting yourself to unnecessary stress.
When a stressful situation reaches your radar, it’s important to determine the source and how it affects you personally. By identifying the source of stress, you can take the appropriate action. You can either confront it, stall and let it dissipate, let it run its course, eliminate it, or distance yourself from it. With the creation of social media and internet-enabled mobile devices, people are more attuned to almost everything in the world. Information travels faster than ever. In the past, we wouldn’t hear about a situation from another country until it’s on the news. And we wouldn’t know about some stranger’s opinion about it unless they’re on the news being interviewed. Now, it’s possible to witness an event as it unfolds and give feedback in real-time. That’s a lot of information to process, a lot of opinions (often times, strong ones), … just a lot to take in. People now often go into heated arguments with complete stranger, people they will very likely never meet in person in their lifetime. It’s outrageous. Bad feedback is really a stress defense mechanism, it’s confronting something (a stressor) they perceived as stressful or something others feel strongly against. The negative feedback will in turn become a stressor of which others will react, eventually the exchange will escalate into an argument.
The more you go beyond your core, the more stressors you will encounter. It all depends on your self-interest. If going into the deep end will serve your goals, then by all means. But expect the possibility that there will be more people out there who will disagree with you. And if that happens, ask yourself, “What is it to you? Is proving yourself right over the other going to make any difference in your life?” If not, let it go – remove yourself from the source of stress. Ignore it.
There are times when we have to go into the deep end. When a situation impacts you personally, when it’s “close to home.” Then you take action and confront the source of stress, but it can’t be sustained. So it’s either you take a break and regroup and make another attempt, or move on.
At the end of the day, it’s all about life priorities. Others like to become martyrs, while others just want to live a quality, stress-free and peaceful life.